On what really matters in life

I have always been interested on figuring out what  the right way to live is.  Largely that was due to the fact that I grew up in two cultures that did not see eye to eye and so I was forced to look at life from an early age.  As I grew up I got into world of self-development, psychology and philosophy.  And all I found was that there is broad array of opinion on how to live and most of it is theoretical.

I have often thought that the best way to figure out how to live is to speak to people who are on their way out.  So what do our fellow human beings who are dying wish they had lived/done differently?   Five things:

  1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me
  2. I wish I had not worked so hard
  3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings
  4. I wish I’d had stayed in touch with my friends
  5. I wish I’d allowed myself to be happier

Where did these come from?  They come from a lady that worked with / took care of these older folks.  I encourage you to read the full article as it really is worth reading:  Regrets of the Dying

Author: Maz Iqbal

Experienced management consultant working at the intersection of strategy, customer, and technology. Combine a tendency to think strategically with a penchant for getting my hands dirty at the coalface of implementation.

3 thoughts on “On what really matters in life”

  1. Thank you Maz.
    I am attending the second funeral/memorial service in one year and I can’t help but really reflect on this life, how to live without regret, and what matters most. Most of all, how to live every day with all of this in mind.

    Wonderful blog by an amazing person.

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    1. Dear Magnus,
      I have talked with you, I have worked with you, I have seen you as a human being and as a professional. I am delighted that our paths crossed and we got to know each other even if it is not as much as I’d like. And if you were here I would give you a hug.

      We all die. Attending funerals I have learned that the ONLY thing that people remember about us is the contribution that we made to their lives: when we helped them out; when we made them laugh; when we believed in them; when we eased their loneliness or sorrow; when we took them out for a meal and made them special..

      I believe that ultimately we are left only with our memories and friends. And so if we are going to collect anything in this life then we should focus on exactly that.

      Your friend
      Maz

      PS: Please know that I like you; I believe in you; and you can count on my friendship.

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