Yesterday I driving the Mercedes with the sunroof and four other windows open. I was in a little bit of a hurry to get to my end destination as my eldest son was waiting for me. Then suddenly the breeze kissing my cheeks and playing with my hair was noticed by me. I stopped: that habitually “I” was stopped in it’s track. In it’s place was present joy – simple delight in being alive. And then gratitude gave me a big hug. gratitude for the brother that bought the Mercedes for me and keeps it in good order. gratitude for being alive and being able to drive – fast. gratitude for the breeze on a hot day. And gratitude for family and friends…….
Then I got present to this simple fact: most of the time wonder is present in the ordinary moments (like a cup of tea or the smile of a fellow human being) yet the “I” is so wrapped up in “getting somewhere”, “doing something”, “making something happen”, “not tripping up”, “making the best use of my time” and such like. The absurdity is that the “I” says it wants to be happy yet it is so wrapped up for its happiness plan that all the raindrops of happiness land on the desert.
So the answer to the question is that in my everyday automatic way of being I am not present to the moments of delight. That does not mean that the world is not full of them. And if I want to experience the joy of these moments then I need simply to be present – to be aware, to be mindful, to move from the mind to the body and simply view the world from the lens of “what works” rather that “what does not work” and the lens of “gratitude” rather than that of “complaint”.