Dear Simon, Fred, Derek, June, Enzo, Saffron, Zara, Emma, Stefanie, Rohan, Simon, Leigh and James
The last two days of my life I have experienced as wonderful and you have all helped to fill me with joy. Please know that I consider it a privilege that our loves have touched and that we are family. Each of you is wonderful and collectively we are awesome. In can honestly say that this has been the BEST Christmas that I have participated in and experienced in my whole life. What showed up this Christmas that was special?
The food and drink was great. Yet that is not what made the difference even though I thoroughly enjoyed the food and totally get/got the love that went into the food and the cooking. Thank you Simon and Fred for the food, drink and the hospitality. I felt loved by you before arriving, I felt loved during my stay at your home and I felt loved in departing from your home.
So what was present (as viewed through my experience) that has not been present in previous Christmases? Conversation and fellowship. I was throughly immersed in conversation with one or more of you during the two days. And that communication occurred in the context of GREAT fellowship. What do I mean? I mean that we all respected each other and as such treated each other with dignity and respect. LOVE was present: the human connection was present and that makes a difference to me. During my time with you we talked about our childhoods, our parents, our friends, our hobbies, our travels… And we shared, explored, discussed but never debated views on morality, justice, economics, politics…… Be being in conversation with me in the spirit of great fellowship you enriched my life – I will remember this Christmas to the end of my days. Thank you for the privilege of being a part of your life and for sharing your life and yourselves with me.
You have got me present to the fact that I have been starving (for a long time). What am I starving from? It is certainly not food or drink. It is the kind of conversation that we co-created (in the spirit of great fellowship) that I have been starving from! Conversation – sharing, listening, exploring, learning, connecting through conversation makes a huge difference to the experience and quality of my living. What is so is that this kind of conversation is totally absent in my day to day living. Derek and June I know why I love being in your company – it is the great conversation which arises as a result of us having diverse experiences and diverse views within the context of respect and love of each other. I love you and thank you for the privilege of your company, your fellowship.
Now that I know that I have been starving myself of good conversation and great fellowship (TED is a great and yet a poor substitute) what am I going to do about it. First and foremost I am creating (right now) the Possibility of great conversation and fellowship. Second, I declare that I am a STAND and CLEARING for great conversation and fellowship. What is left to do is to take UNREASONABLE action in support of this Possibility and Stand.
What do I want from you – my friends and family? I request that you act as an existence structure (a powerful conscience) that continually reminds me of this Possibility and Stand and moves me to act in alignment with this Possibility and Stand.
I love you. And that goes for family and friends in the USA (Dan, Lora, Kevin, Dawood, Ray….), New Zealand (Jon, Natalie, the boys), Germany (Frank, Petra, Ida, Paul, Anton, Stefanie), Switzerland (Stefanie), France (Hugues, Suzanne, Aldine, Marco, Clea, Ralf, Christelle, Will, Meme, Lisa, Roald, Beatrice, Michel, Jacqueline, ………….), Belgium (Tim + family, Karl), Spain (Gloria, Andrew), Thailand (James), UK (Gisella, James, Ansar, Lois, Shamim, Anjam, Amjad, Saima,………), Israel (Arie), Italy (Luciano)….. I wish you the very best for 2012 and look forward to the day we meet face to face and I have the privilege of your company.