Improving the workability of our lives, our relationships, our world

Laurence Platt over at Conversations For Transformation (Inspired by the Ideas of Werner Erhard) has written a fabulous piece: The Illusion of I.  Here I simply wish to share with you the two paragraphs which occur as being particularly enlightening about life:

Try this on for size: the world doesn’t work when run as a “you or me” world. It’s not designed to be run that way. And if we unknowingly try to run it as a “you or me” world when it clearly doesn’t work as a “you or me” world, there’s no use claiming we didn’t know it doesn’t work as a “you or me” world. That doesn’t fix it. That doesn’t make it work any better. For the world to work, a shift is required in what we don’t know  about making it work.

At the heart of what we don’t know about making the world work, is an error akin to unknowingly trying to run a diesel powered Mercedes-Benz with gasoline. Running the “you and  me” world unknowingly as if it’s a “you or me” world, is this error. This error is based on an illusion. Yes an illusion. It’s the illusion of I. I is an illusion. And it’s the illusion of I which leads to individual territoriality instead of individual co-operation – which leads to political parties’ territoriality instead of political parties’ co-operation, which leads to nations’ territoriality instead of nations’ co-operation.

This is what I make Laurence’s essay mean:

We are given birth, embedded in, and living in a ‘you AND me’ world.  A world where relationship-interdependence-unity is built into the very fabric/structure/working of the world.  In such a world cooperation and collaboration is the way.

Yet our language, our training, our way of being-doing in the world is to operate from a ‘you OR me’ context.  We divide the world into you and me. And spend the rest of our lives competing with each other –  ‘you OR me’ – and feeling disconnected from one another, and sometimes life itself.

The major issues that show up in our world – personal life, family, work, community, the world – arise from operating from a ‘you OR me’ context when we live in ‘you AND me’ world.

Shifting from the ‘you OR me’ way of being-in-the-world to a ‘you AND me’ way of being-in-the-world gives us access for transforming the quality of life, for all, on this planet that gives us life. And making this shift  personally and inspring-empowering others to do so is the ultimate act of leadership.

Author: Maz Iqbal

Experienced management consultant. Passionate about enabling customer-centricity by calling forth the best from those that work in the organisation and the intelligent application of digital technologies. Subject matter expert with regards to customer strategy, customer insight, customer experience (CX), customer relationship management (CRM), and relationship marketing. Working at the intersection of the Customer, the Enterprise (marketing, sales, service), and Technology.

5 thoughts on “Improving the workability of our lives, our relationships, our world”

  1. Shifting from the ‘you OR me’ way of being-in-the-world to a ‘you AND me’ way of being-in-the-world gives us access for transforming the quality of life, for all, on this planet that gives us life. And making this shift personally and inspring-empowering others to do so is the ultimate act of leadership.~ the same as shifting from a context of what is in it for me toooooooooooo How can i serve? How can i operate from unconditional love, happiness, being. How can i touch, move, inspire all that appears at my door.


  2. What would happen if we moved our attention from “what’s in it for us” to “all of us are in this together?”
    If everyone feels in their inner being, “How can I be of service,” what would a service–oriented life look like?
    When you come from a place of service, it is purely heart-based. It is a mechanism of manifestation. It allows the mechanism of the universe to open up for ALL… Not just for you, but for ALL to be served.
    The possibilities of what we can do together are endless. This energy frequency is always available if you say “yes.” Being in service is a wonderful inclusive energy for you to get what you want and for everyone else to get what they want, too. – Jennifer McLean


  3. “When your inner mantra becomes ‘How may I serve?’ rather than ‘What am I going to get?’ and ‘Who do I need to defeat?,’ you start to see the unfolding of God in everything and everyone around you and you shift into higher consciousness.” – Wayne Dye


  4. Lopamudra Sharma ~
    Approach relationships from a giving, rather than thinking “what can I get out of this?” Think of what you can bring to the relationship – love, caring, nurturing etc. Before entering a relationship, you must be self-sufficient in yourself. If you enter a relationship out of need, then the relationship you attract will generally fail to satisfy you. Like a bank account, the energy you put to the relationship is what you will get back. In most painful relationships, two dependent individuals become co-dependent, whereas in relationships that work, two independent people consciously decide to be inter-dependent. There is no neediness in the latter case, just an intention to share the love and joy that one already feels. ( You & Me relationship VS You or Me )


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