What Is The Cost of Being Right About Being Right?

I like to be right about being right

I say:

I like to be right,

I like to be right about being right,

I like to be right about being right about being right….

Am I addicted to being right about being right?

It occurs to me that I have just told a lie, so let me put it more accurately.

I am addicted to being right,

I am addicted to being right about being right,

I am addicted to being right about being right about being right …

Are we addicted to being right about being right?

I say that you are addicted to being right. Why am I confident that what shows up as being true for me is also true for you?  Because you and are both human beings; the same human machinery runs us.  Standing in this place it occurs to me that I still haven’t told the ‘truth’. So let me see if I can get nearer to the truth. I say:

It is in the nature of the human machinery that runs us,

to be addicted to being right,

And being right about being right,

And being right about being right about being right ….

What is the cost of being right about being right?

Yet, you and I are not merely human machinery.  We have the capacity to transcend the human machinery.  How? By seeing the human machinery. By being present, at the level of feeling, with the cost of the human machinery.  Right now I am present to the cost of being right about being right …..

What is the cost?  The cost is the lack of affinity between myself and me wife.  The cost is a certain melancholy that is present right now in my house of being.  The cost is a wasted evening yesterday. And a day without intimacy-friendship-laughter-joy today.

The choice facing me, facing you

I have a question for me, for you, for us.  What is the cost each of us have paid for being right?  What is the cost each of us have paid for being right about being right?  How many relationships have we sacrificed?  How much affinity have we given up?  How much joy have we given up?

And what is the cost am I, are you, are we, paying right now for being right about being right?

All of which reminds me of something I heard in Landmark Education some 10 years ago:

You can be right, 

Or you can be in relationship,

Choose. 

Author: Maz Iqbal

Experienced management consultant working at the intersection of strategy, customer, and technology. Combine a tendency to think strategically with a penchant for getting my hands dirty at the coalface of implementation.

4 thoughts on “What Is The Cost of Being Right About Being Right?”

  1. You can be right,

    Or you can be in relationship,

    Choose. ……..Now we are aware of these choice points….gratitude for bringing them from the unknown to the known…for us to choose.

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    1. Hello Gautam

      Thank you. Today, I really needed to know that my existence makes a difference. And today, you have showed up to let me know that it does.

      I wish you to know that your existence makes a profound difference to my existence. What is present for me is love.

      I thank you for the gift of your listening.

      With my love
      maz

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      1. Hello Maz,

        I am delighted & honored to be a part of your existence. You are my true Champion & we all need Champions, young & old in the words of Maz. :) I often quote Maz Iqbal now.

        In words of Werner : “Until what is significant is created by you, you aren’t living your life, you are living some inherited life.”

        This blog is your legacy to the world, it has enriched my life beyond measure & i see generations of human beings, now & in to the distant future coming here to shift & transform their life’s. There can be no bigger gift.There is no greater blessing. I refer to your blog as the Mecca of Transformation, it is a global reference landmark on transformation. Your stories & distinctions are unique & make the point in great simplicity. Your words & topics you bring forward are a game changer, a life changer.
        Your blog is a window/portal to Transformation. A Goto guide on making life work, for every human being sent to earth.

        Reminds me of Laurence Platt`s quote ~ “For you to make it, for me to make it, we all have to make it. There is literally no such thing – in a transformed life – of making it on your own.

        Once you discover the source of your own power, if you do not give it away, you are only shooting yourself in the foot. There is an old adage that says that “if you want it done right, you have to do it yourself”.

        Not so.

        If you are going to be truly powerful, if you are really going to create a powerful future for yourself, you are going to have to find a way of giving power away to other people.”

        I am grateful to the universe for your Existence & Contributions. God, yes God sends me to your blog to answer so many of my questions i ask him in prayer.

        With my love & blessings,

        Gautam

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  2. 15 things to be happy:)
    1. GIVE UP YOUR NEED TO ALWAYS BE RIGHT
    2. GIVE UP YOUR NEED FOR CONTROL
    3. GIVE UP ON BLAME
    4. GIVE UP YOUR SELF-DEFEATING SELF-TALK
    5. GIVE UP YOUR LIMITING BELIEFS
    6. GIVE UP COMPLAINING.
    7. GIVE UP THE LUXURY OF CRITICISM
    8. GIVE UP YOUR NEED TO IMPRESS OTHERS
    9. GIVE UP YOUR RESISTANCE TO CHANGE
    10. GIVE UP LABELS
    11. GIVE UP ON YOUR FEARS
    12. GIVE UP YOUR EXCUSES
    13. GIVE UP THE PAST
    14. GIVE UP ATTACHMENT
    15. GIVE UP LIVING YOUR LIFE TO OTHER PEOPLE’S ~ Shalini bansal ( Landmark Graduate)

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