Which Context is Determining How You (and I) Show Up?

I share with you a talk worth listening to again and again.  If you are a Landmark graduate then this talk may show up as  welcome reminder of some fundamentals. If you are not a Landmark graduate then you are in for a mind opening talk. Enjoy.

Author: Maz Iqbal

Experienced management consultant working at the intersection of strategy, customer, and technology. Combine a tendency to think strategically with a penchant for getting my hands dirty at the coalface of implementation.

5 thoughts on “Which Context is Determining How You (and I) Show Up?”

  1. Life changing distinction of Creating & Surviving……empowers to a new way of freedom, power & living. Brilliant!! Maz, Heartfelt Appreciation! the difference you make to the universe via your blog.

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    1. Hello Gautam
      It occurs to me that you and I are brothers. And, I have missed the generosity of your listening and of your speaking.

      Of all days, today is the day that I needed to hear your voice. Thank you with all of my being.

      With my love
      maz

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  2. Hello Maz,

    I am a landmark graduate (attended the forum recently) and came across this blog today while surfing online. I went though several of your other posts and must say that you have shared some very important lessons in a very powerful manner. Your writing left an impact on me.

    I have been struggling a lot over past several years with a sense of being powerless in my personal and professional life situations. I did realize long back that I was at the center of those troubles, true happiness and contentment can only be found internally but the approach has always been fixing something in me towards a ‘change’/betterment. I always held myself responsible for all the problems that I felt had existed around me – I am not good enough, not smart enough, a loser with limited capabilities taking me down the path of low self-confidence and low self-expression. By several conventional standards, I am fairly successful in life, but still feel that I am just catching up with life which is on an auto-pilot. I guess I am still trying to understand how to apply the lessons from landmark forum in the life situations moment by moment and experience a true transformation in my life. It feels really hard to apply this approach to life in general. We get hard-wired in our minds in a certain way and now, with each situation in life, one needs to step back from the usual approach that been a guide for our actions so far and think with a new paradigm. Does this take time to build as a living reality? I want to live a fulfilling life and am convinced that I have the power to create that life for me but this sense keeps fading away in the background when I am dealing with life situations and do also keep coming to the foreground every now and then – this leaves me frustrated when I think how much I am still trapped in old ways of thinking. I get breakdowns when I see myself mired in petty issues – even when with the realization and awareness of all the distinctions, I am unable to let do and snap out of those easily. I feel that these ideas just stay as a concept in my mind but don’t get translated into practice.

    Sorry for the lengthy post, but do you have any suggestions for me?

    Kind regards,
    Nishant

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  3. Hello Nishant,
    How do I impact the world? Is it through the thoughts? Is it through beliefs about self and the world? Is it through wishes, desires or intentions? Is it through mere talk? No.

    It occurs to me that the access to causing a transformation in the experience and circumstances in my life is action – persistent action borne of fierce resolve-commitment. How do I access this kind of fierce resolve-commitment. Allow me to give you an example.

    For many years I have not learned to cook a curry. Intellectually, I knew that it would be a good idea to be able to cook a curry. I thought about it many times. I even had intentions of going on a cooking course. Yet, for at least 20 years I did not actually cook a curry.

    Recently, I went to visit my parents to find that my mother is no longer able to cook. I found the fridge empty. I found that that I had to call my brother and ask him to order in food. I found that the food was not that good. Upon returning home I found that I had a fierce resolve to cook for my parents. Why? Because it was not acceptable for me, at a deeply emotional level, to be with my parents and not be able to feed them. Since then I have been cooking curry.

    Summing up, nothing changes, we live on autopilot until and unless we cause or find ourselves gripped by a possibility that moves-touches-inspires us. I have finally cooked curry because I find myself moved-touched-inspired by the possibility of cooking for my parents and feeding them with the kind of food they want to eat. More importantly, I am deeply committed to giving them an access to being honoured-loved by their son.

    Please be careful here. It is my experience that the intellect does not provide access to fierce resolve, commitment, and persistent action. The access is provided through the door that unlocks the emotions. It is the possibility that moves-touches-inspires us emotionally-spiritually that makes all the difference.

    As for becoming effective in living the distinctions, it takes time. How does one become a driver? By driving until one achieves competence. And in the process be willing to make mistakes, feel foolish etc. By continuing to drive one finds oneself driving automatically – without thought. So it is only by living the distinctions and persisting on getting back on the horse despite falling off many times (in the beginning) that one becomes competent at living the distinctions.

    There are no short cuts. And our default of being-showing up in the world is to look for short-cuts.

    I hope this makes a contribution to your life.

    At your service / with my love
    maz

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