I did not grow up with the experience of feeling loved. Valued for the opportunity I represented for my parents, yes. Loved for my human being ness (as it was and was not), definitely not.
It is hard to shake off this baggage. I am now a middle aged man and I still experience great difficulty in accepting-feeling loved. Which is why the following gift from family touched the deepest part of me and I found myself with tears raining down my cheeks:
I got plenty of presents bought from the shops. Some of them even turned out to be useful. Yet, these words are the present that cannot be bought and show up as priceless.
Play BIG. I invite you to play BIG by doing something similar. Search inside for the words that express why you love those you love. I find that the simplest words are the best. Write these words down, so that your words leave footprints in the sand, and hand them over to your loved ones.
Go further, make it a daily practice to reach out and touch a life by sending an SMS that expresses your appreciation for a fellow human being that is part of your life. Words cost so little yet make such an enormous impact. Why? I am not alone, I suspect most of us are just like me – feeling unappreciated, feeling unloved, or finding it hard to love ourselves.
I thank you for your listening, and I ask you to play BIG in your daily living. Until the next time….